An example for young women getting into porn of how NOT to act

I strongly encourage women in, or thinking of entering the porn industry to watch the following video:

http://www.myvideo.de/watch/6728364/Tanner_Mayes#

It may seem like a dramatization, but I'm fairly certain it's not - the video is not continuous, so parts may have been edited out that MIGHT have justified her behavior and language, but regardless, this is an example of how NOT to behave on set.

Ironically this young woman began with the same talent agency as myself, in the video was shooting in the same studio of which "Not the Cosby's XXX" was filmed in (the "Cosby couch" can actually be seen in this video) , and was working with a producer that I've worked with in the past (who I actually had no problem working with - thought he was down to earth when I worked with him on SILFs).

I'm not sure what exactly happened to this young woman on this day - however regardless of the circumstance -she was out of control when this video footage was taken and that's not good. From what I can observe she has a lot of built up anger and frustration, and probably needs to take a break from the industry for a bit to "reset".

I decided to touch on this video in this blog because I've been there - Not within the porn business, but definitely back when I was an exotic dancer. One thing I learned in time, was that when things got to where I thought I'd go insane, it was best that I walked away. I encourage others to do the same.

If you reach a point in the adult industry (whether you're a dancer, webcam girl, or doing porn) to where you are as angry as Tanner appears to be in this video, the adult industry may not be right for you, at that point in your life. Your happiness and sanity is always more valuable than any amount of money a studio may pay you for a scene.

In the adult video business, as I talk about on www.gettingintoporn.com - you need to maintain a clear head, present yourself in a professional manner and at least attempt to remain "sane" - otherwise people WILL exploit you, which is what has happened in this particular instance.

What's really bad about this particular situation is that there WILL be people that this young woman comes across who will "OK" and even encourage her to continue to act immaturely. She may see people who do so as being "on her side" at this phase in her life, but in reality these are people who's goal is to bring her down, control, manipulate and eventually destroy her.

Just remember ladies:

1) No one likes a diva, regardless of how much money you make, how popular you are or how pretty you are. That doesn't mean you shouldn't have high self esteem, it just means that you don't need to be a narcissist - at least not on set.
2) You won't be young and cute forever - conduct yourself as an ADULT because you are working in the ADULT BUSINESS.
3) No one can "make you" get into porn, or quit porn (and truthfully, no one cares because there are many who can replace you that arrive in Los Angeles daily) - and by acting (and speaking) as if someone can, dis empowers you substantially.

I wish Tanner the best.